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I Will Make a Helper for Him

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I Will Make a Helper for Him


“And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him” (Genesis 2:18).


After hearing the constant refrain “it was good” throughout the Creation narrative, we are jolted by this declaration.


In the mist of all the “good” that God is creating, there is something not yet good enough! “It is not good that man should be alone.”


Here we must tread carefully and yet boldly. We see in this that God’s normal prescription for humans is that they not be alone, that they be married. Yes, we must be careful in saying this, because Jesus and Paul both were single men. And Paul tells us in 1 Corinthians that some are given the gift of singleness by which they can serve the Lord, in some ways, with greater focus and flexibility.


Of course, we are all single for a period of time when we are young, and then perhaps single again when we are old. Yet even the extraordinary grace that God provides to widows and widowers in their loneliness is a pointer to the fact that humans are not normally meant to spend life alone.


So if you are single and longing for a spouse, I do not mean to rub salt in that wound. God is good, God is faithful, and God’s plan and timing for each individual is different. But if you, as a young person, are single because you are too busy chasing after knowledge, after material security, after personal pleasure – then you are too busy. You are, ironically, trying to obtain what Adam already had in complete fullness in Eden! Adam had everything the single mind and body could enjoy; yet God looks over his situation and says, “It is not good for man to be alone.”


Remember that Adam was not your typical bachelor – cooking Ramen noodles in the microwave – Adam was in Eden!


Even Eden could not fill the void for which God created Eve.


Contrary to the claim of many environmentalists today, humans are God’s greatest earthly gift to the rest of his Creation; we see this in chapter 2 of Genesis as well, as God creates man to care for and take dominion over the earth. And contrary to the almost universal attitude of Western culture today, a woman is God’s greatest earthly gift to man. A godly wife is one of the greatest means God has given men for sanctification, fellowship, and mutual enjoyment. The fact that Eve was made to be Adam’s “helper” speaks to his inadequacy, not to any inferiority in her. The same word is later used of God himself! God helps us, not because of any inferiority in him, but because of the inadequacies in us.


God made wives for the purpose of filling in, of completing, the needs that he saw in man’s makeup — even as a morally perfect human being.


We are reminded in this inspired account that God created humans either male or female. We do not need to wonder what our gender identity is, for God has already revealed that to us by the way he has made us. God made men male, and he made women female. And because they are made for each other, to perfectly compliment one another, trust God on this: no man-made mutation of the marriage union will bring the blessing that God intended it to be.


When God said, “I will make man a helper who is suitable for him”, he did exactly that! A godly wife exactly fits the needs of every godly husband. And marriage, God declares, is a suitable, appropriate, healthy environment for both husband and wife to thrive emotionally, physically, and spiritually.

by Justin Huffman